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The personal development and self-help voices are getting REALLY LOUD at this time of year. I am getting pounded and hounded with offers of books, online courses, webinars, videos and, and, and. WOW, turn down the noise!

How do you decipher what is best for you? What will serve you the most? Let me help.

Clearly you have options:

1. You can simply hit delete, but you might be missing something that you would really enjoy and could be really good for you.
2. You could skip over the messages in your email and decide to revisit them later, letting them all pile up and probably ultimately deleting them anyway.
3. You could react immediately, Johnny on the spot and sign up for whatever is being offered

OR
You could take a moment today and ask yourself, what is it I am looking for? What specifically will help me move into the direction of my goals or vision this coming year? (You can’t say, “I don’t know” because if you get quiet and ask the questions, you do know).

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First let’s Look at just three of our domains in life. The things you most likely want to improve.

1. Love, Family, and or relationships
2. Health and well being, physical, emotional, spiritual
3. Money/Freedom – Job, make more money, change careers, security, time

Ask yourself:
What would I love in these areas and write down at least 3 things in each area.
Example: Money – Job

1. Earn more money this year
2. Start investing my money
3. Be more efficient and organized with time management.

Now when the emails come, or the pop-ups or ads show up.

Ask yourself:

1. Does this directly apply to my goals and me?
2. Will this help me in the specific area that I have decided to give attention to?

If not: Delete.

If so: Create an email folder and save them to it.

Next ask yourself:
How do I really learn best?

1. Books or Audio?
2. Self study courses?
3. Live or recorded courses?
4. Do I need to be accountable to someone to actually follow through and not get sidetracked?

Personally, I either read or listen to Audio as part of my DAILY routine AND I attend live courses online or in person where the facilitator is expecting me. I need to show up, I need the accountability.

Now pick your most successful method.

So if I ask myself what is most important to me this year?

I will tell you: Earning Money and My Health.

And then I look at my answers to: How do I learn best?  What is the best way for me to achieve these goals?

I learn best by daily routines and live accountability.

I am going to quiet the noise and delete the emails that are not in alignment with my specific goals this year and THEN…. I am going to SET A DATE on my calendar to sit with the offers that have been sent to me and see if they are a fit right now.  So drag them into the folder and then calendarize when to review them.

I KNOW – If I start too much at once, I will fail.

So, we decide on ONE or TWO things. That’s it!

If 6 months from now you need to change it up? Go back and look at the folder, look at who is making the offer, if they are reputable and successful I am sure when you visit their website you will find something to boost your interest in the areas of change and improvement.

I hope this helps you to quiet the noise and really take steps to increase your learning, growth and quality of life this year.

I am going to give you an opportunity to do some reframing here.

A longtime client of mine decided to use her coaching session to try and get some insight for her husbands struggling consulting business. He really wants to attract more clients. His story, as she tells it is, he says things like “I am no good in sales” and “it’s because of my age”. (in his 60’s).

These are facts they are not truths. Let’s break it down.
He is not good in sales – That may not even be true, because after I did more discovery, I can tell, he isn’t even having sales conversations. He is blogging and welcoming feedback, (which he is getting a lot of, but not from his customers) So, he isn’t even having marketing or sales conversations. He is just engaging in dialogue with other people who want to comment or share their opinions.

So what can we learn from this? First, let’s figure out what the true challenge or problem is. How do you do that? Find someone who can identify your true blocks and get you moving. If you don’t know what to do, or how to do it, you have 2 choices. You can sit, wish, lament and continue to tell your story of “why not” or you can take action.

In this case his wife took action and within 10 minutes with me, we found 3 things that he wasn’t doing, that he should be doing. Things that would increase his business and they had nothing to do with him not being a good sales person, or his age. Which if you recall, is what he was stuck on.

Ok, let’s address the age thing. A) You can hide behind it and stay stuck in that story (no one has told him that he is too old by the way), it is his perception. Or you can reframe it as I did for them. I see his age as a positive.

It is no lie there is a different mindset with younger generations out there, (remember I coach leaders and their staff every day, I see both sides). There is definitely a generation of employees that think their problems are the companies problems, that their every need should be taken into consideration and concessions made to make sure they are comfortable so they can be productive. Ummm…. not entirely untrue but this entitlement group has missed the point of making good quality work for their employer who pays their salary their priority.

Given this perspective, It was easy for me to reframe for them, “The age thing”.
Look at his experience, look at his track record and results, look at his work ethic and what he will bring to the table, his maturity, experience and accountability. This is reframing or changing perception.

Your turn… Take a belief of yours and reframe it. Maybe it is about how you can’t do something because…. (fill in the blank)
First thing, let go of the belief. Put it behind you by saying “ I used to …” or “Up until now” this is setting it free as a past problem, not a current companion.
Secondly, ask yourself, “if I didn’t believe that was true, how can I see this differently” (insert new perception).

If you just do this, things will get a little easier for you. If you make it a daily practice, things will get a lot easier for you.

If you want to really make a shift, contact me and let’s look at creating permanent change.

As always, I got your back!

My initial response is NEVER, it’s a GOOD THING you can never have too much!
But really, if we take it too extremes?
Too much sun?
Too much ice-cream!
Too much bacon (said no one ever!)
Too much work.
Too much activity.
Too much training.
And the topic on this little blog today… too much POSITIVE!
You read it right, too much positive. My inbox is flooded with so called gurus and quotes and newsletters…for me, I have come to the conclusion it is TOO MUCH. My focus gets spread too thin; I cannot really let the things that resonate with me sink in.

I liken it to being at a giant event, where you are host and you are just rushing around to be sure and touch every guest and before you know it, party is over and it was a total blur. (Visualize that for a sec)
-Versus-
Having a really memorable, intimate event where you are able to make some real and awesome conversation and connections.
(Now visualize the difference)…. See what I mean! You totally get it.
I also came to the realization that I grow out of stuff or read one great thing that grabs me and then I subscribe and the rest just doesn’t do it for me, or the rest is simply marketing with no more “help” or “inspiration” or “tools”.

So I have a suggestion that has worked for me and mine:
DECLUTTER YOUR MOTIVATIONAL TOOLS! UNSUBSCRIBE (not from me of course – Duh)
But reevaluate what you want to focus on in your life right now and look for just that content. Try Google, type in key words that describe YOUR current goals and DESIRES and go from there.

Remember, “What we focus on expands” if we are all over the place, what are we truly focused on? RIGHT?!
Let me be crystal clear… I am not telling you to unsubscribe to everything; I am a HUGE believer in positive feeding. Just limit the voices to those that will work with you today to focus and expand where you want to be.
Sending you my very best and as always, if you need anything… I got your back!

Give your time * Give your talent * Give your money * Give your love * Give … ideas * Give … patience * Give…compassion * Give…empathy * Give…

I am challenging you to CONSCIOUSLY GIVE for 30 days. This is not a competition of who can give more, or stroking egos, this is jumping in the flow, creating acts of kindness, inspiring others with your actions so they jump in the flow and give as well…Sounds easy? It can be but the real challenge comes when you don’t want to give, when your patience is shot, your stressed, irritated and tired, when you feel overwhelmed, over worked, over burdened… THIS IS EXACTLY WHEN YOU GIVE…you will feel the shift and others will too…

Post your random act of giving everyday and challenge 3 people to do the same.