The personal development and self-help voices are getting REALLY LOUD at this time of year. I am getting pounded and hounded with offers of books, online courses, webinars, videos and, and, and. WOW, turn down the noise!
How do you decipher what is best for you? What will serve you the most? Let me help.
Clearly you have options:
- You can simply hit delete, but you might be missing something that you would really enjoy and could be really good for you.
- You could skip over the messages in your email and decide to revisit them later, letting them all pile up andprobably ultimately deleting them anyway.
- You could react immediately, Johnny on the spot and sign up for whatever is being offered
You could take a moment today and ask yourself, what is it I am looking for? What specifically will help me move into the direction of my goals or vision this coming year? (You can’t say, “I don’t know” because if you get quiet and ask the questions, you do know).
First lets Look at just three of our domains in life. The things you most likely want to improve.
- Love, Family, and or relationships
- Health and well being, physical, emotional, spiritual
- Money/Freedom – Job, make more money, change careers, security, time
What would I love in these areas and write down at least 3 things in each area.
Example: Money – Job
- Earn more money this year
- Start investing my money
- Be more efficient and organized with time management.
Now when the emails come, or the pop-ups or ads show up.
- Does this directly apply to my goals and me?
- Will this help me in the specific area that I have decided to give attention to?
If not: Delete.
If so: Create an email folder and save them to it.
Next ask yourself:
How do I really learn best?
- Books or Audio?
- Self study courses?
- Live or recorded courses?
- Do I need to be accountable to someone to actually follow through and not get sidetracked?
Personally, I either read or listen to Audio as part of my DAILY routine AND I attend live courses online or in person where the facilitator is expecting me. I need to show up, I need the accountability.
Now pick your most successful method.
So if I ask myself what is most important to me this year?
I will tell you: Earning Money and My Weight Control.
And then I look at my answers to: How do I learn best? What is the best way for me to achieve these goals?
I learn best by daily routines and live accountability.
I am going to quiet the noise and delete the emails that are not in alignment with my specific goals this year and THEN…. I am going to SET A DATE on my calendar to sit with the offers that have been sent to me and see if they are a fit right now. So drag them into the folder and then calendarize when to review them.
I KNOW – If I start too much at once, I will fail.
So, we decide on ONE or TWO things. That’s it!
If 6 months from now you need to change it up? Go back and look at the folder, look at who is making the offer, if they are reputable and successful I am sure when you visit their website you will find something to boost your interest in the areas of change and improvement.
I hope this helps you to quiet the noise and really take steps to increase your learning, growth and quality of life this year.
I am going to give you an opportunity to do some reframing here.
A longtime client of mine decided to use her coaching session to try and get some insight for her husbands struggling consulting business. He really wants to attract more clients. His story, as she tells it is, he says things like “I am no good in sales” and “it’s because of my age”. (in his 60’s).
These are facts they are not truths. Lets break it down.
He is not good in sales – That may not even be true, because after I did more discovery, I can tell, he isn’t even having sales conversations. He is blogging and welcoming feedback, (which he is getting a lot of, but not from his customers) so, he isn’t even having marketing or sales conversations. He is just engaging in dialogue with other people who want to comment or share their opinions.
So what can we learn from this? First, lets figure out what the true challenge or problem is. How do you do that? Find someone who can identify your TRUE block and get you moving. If you don’t know what to do, or how to do it, you have 2 choices. You can sit, wish, lament and continue to tell your story of “why not” or you can take action.
In this case his wife took action and within 10 minutes with me, we found 3 things that he wasn’t doing, that he should be doing. Things that would increase his business and they had nothing to do with him not being a good sales person, or his age. Which if you recall, is what he was stuck on.
Ok, lets address the age thing. A) You can hide behind it and stay stuck in that story (no one has told him that he is too old by the way), it is his perception. Or you can reframe it as I did for them. I see his age as a positive.
It is no lie there is a generation of entitlement out there, (remember I coach leaders and their staff every day, I see both sides). There is definitely a generation of employees that think their problems are the companies problems, that their every need should be taken into consideration and concessions made to make sure they are comfortable so they can be productive. Ummm…. not entirely untrue but this entitlement group has gone way too far.
Given this perspective, It was easy for me to reframe for them, “The age thing”.
Look at his experience, look at his track record and results, look at his work ethic and what he will bring to the table, his maturity, experience and accountability. This is reframing or changing perception.
Your turn… Take a belief of yours and reframe it. Maybe it is about how you can’t do something because…. (fill in the blank)
First thing, let go of the belief. Put it behind you by saying “ I used to …” or “Up until now” this is setting it free as a past problem, not a current companion.
Secondly, ask yourself, “if I didn’t believe that was true, how can I see this differently” (insert new perception).
If you just do this, things will get a little easier for you. If you make it a daily practice, things will get a lot easier for you.
If you want to really make a shift, contact me and lets look at creating permanent change.
As always, I got your back!
In case you missed this invitation last week. There is still time, you have one week and I have one space available. But you need to reach out now.
Remember the Carly Simon Song “Anticipation” ? We need to change it to…
PRO-CRAST-I-NATION. Pro – crast – i – nay – yay –tion… its making me ….not do all the stuff I know I should be doing….
And… we laugh!
But it’s true, right? You know you should be more focused on your career, finances, or health. You know, your personal development is begging for attention.. Yet, you don’t do what you know you should be doing.
Instead,, you are going to the lake, the bar, the beach after work. You over consume Internet and TV. You are distracted SQURILL! You have vacation coming up, the kids are out of school and your family is coming for a visit… You say, I will do better after XYZ is over. I hope you do do better when XYZ is over. But let’s get real. Lets make it REALLY HAPPEN!
Starting personal development work in the summertime, when you haven’t already made it a habit, is like starting a diet before the holidays. Some can do it and if that is you AMEN, CONTACT ME and let’s start. For most, starting a new program now, is really a set-up for failure.
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When is too much of a good thing too much of a good thing? Maybe when it comes to eating a gallon of ice-cream? Or staying out in the sun too long.? But what about self-examination or self-help? What about too much personal development?
A part of you is saying, “tell me more” and another part is thinking HUH? “Sam, are you telling me that I could be doing too much good stuff and it is actually working against me?
Yes I am telling you, it is completely possible.
I study and teach principals discovered and developed by some of the worlds top thought leaders and something Mary Morrisey taught me really stuck. “Spirit Loves Fun”
Mary has more than 40 years within these studies. I admire and love her to the core and THAT comment, really resonated with me… So, now I get to share it with you.
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How about Sad? Depressed? Stressed? Unmotivated? Feeling a bunch of Anxiety? Recently, I think I was all of these things! Yes, me the Coach! I noticed it and still chose to stay stuck. I actually said “WTH is happening to me”…. Ha Ha Ha…” What is happening to me?” It wasn’t happening TO ME, it was coming FROM ME. I created this, I know what went wrong, what a dumb ass I was being … Staying in that space was actually uncomfortable but, I stayed even knowing it wasn’t really serving me and then, to top it all off, I went and crawled into bed and pretended to be Cleopatra “Queen of Denial”.
Do you ever entertain and even energize those thoughts? The “why is this happening to me, what’s wrong with me, why did I do this? Why? Why?Why? (overly dramatic on purpose there)
Here is my truth on this. The answer isn’t going to cause you to change, if anything, at least in my experience, it could become a crutch, the excuse as to why I do, or do not do things…“I do this because, when I was a little girl XYZ happened to me” – “I am afraid of doing that because this happened to me” Um… Ok… but it is now, it is today. Knowing why really doesn’t do much for me in moving forward, maybe it does for you, but this me sharing. So, let me promise you something that does work, every time.
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