Why me? I have the worst luck, Why does this stuff keep happening to me? It may have a different mask on and look different from the outside, but rest assured it’s the same crap that keeps happening over and over. “I keep dating losers and users”, “My clients are all broke or not qualified” “People keep putting too much on my plate”, “I cant get things done, its one thing after another”. “I am always broke”. Do you know this person? Does it seem a bit much when you read it? Yet, some of it (if not all of it) sounds familiar right? So, what’s the deal? Why do you think you are victim to the bad things that keep happening to you?
Well for starters it’s the “Victim” part of the equation. By assigning blame, you give up your power. Once you take responsibility for things, you can change your life. Think about this for a second. Can you really change other people? How about places or things? Can you change those? In case you are struggling with this one, the answer is no. So, by pointing the finger and blaming outward, you give up all of your power to change things.
Blame = Powerlessness
Do you want things to be different for you? Look a little deeper, buck up here kids and create the change you desire.
- “I am dating losers and users because I keep picking them and accepting them in my life”. Now you can choose to stop that habit or not. But it is you allowing these people into your life. Yup, its your choice. You are doing it to yourself.
- “All of my clients are broke and can’t afford to buy my product”. Make a conscience decision to connect with these people and not prejudge them, “I am going to find a way for my product to add so much value that they cant say no”
- “I am too busy”. Then get organized. Decide to stop spreading yourself too thin. Sometimes you just need to say no, set boundaries, and schedule things in advance. That way you are prepared and don’t over commit or disappoint yourself and others.
- Always Broke? Do you owe people money for choices you have made? Credit card debt, living arrangements, dining out? Supporting the loser ex-lover? Take responsibility, look at the lesson in it and find a solution.
Next time you are feeling sorry or frustrated about your life ask yourself “What’s the lesson here? What will I do differently next time, and what can I do right now to change the direction? If you keep wanting to blame, you will remain stuck. If you choose to take responsibility, your life will move. I promise.
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